How to Say Yizkor

Yizkor is said: Yom Kippur, Shemini Atzeres, Acharon shel Pesach, and the second day of Shavuos

In the table of contents, look for “סדר הזכרות נשמות”— in almost all siddurim/ machzorim, that’s how it’s listed.

After those who are not saying Yizkor leave shul, you say (quietly) one of two paragraphs — either the one for a father (יזכורנשמת אבי מורי) or the one for a mother (יזכור… נשמת אמי מורתי). Someone who lost both says each of those paragraphs.

Wherever you see פלוני בן/בת פלוני or פ“בפ, you insert your parent’s name. In most circles, the parent’s name is said as ben/bas ploni (i.e. using the niftar’s father’s name); some chassidishe communities say it with the niftar’s mother’s name (i.e. ben/bas plonis) and it will be written that way in the machzor. (As you can see, that’s the way it’s written in the machzor I was using for the pictures.)

After that there is “Kel Malei Rachamim,” which everyone says quietly. (Say the one preceded by “לזכר” for a father, the one preceded by “לנקבה” for a mother.)

Then, in some shuls, the baal tefillah or whoever is leading Yizkor says a Mi Shebeirach for the honorary members of the shul or the older members of the shul out loud. (Only he says this. You can use this time to catch up if you have not finished saying “Yizkor” or “Kel Malei Rachamim.”)

After that, everyone says “Av Harachamim” quietly. And then someone lets the others know they can come back into shul.

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