Every family is different when it comes to Yahrtzeit. There is no right or wrong way to do it. Just do what works for your family, the ages of your children and the space they’re in.
Sometimes it all feels right. You get to the cemetery, have a minyan, finish Mishnayos at home, have a great meal, tell the best stories and feel great.
And then the next year comes aroud and it all feels off where nothing is working the way you want it to.
Whether you’re the only child or the only one local or family dynamics mean you can’t be together or the only one commemorating religiously, grief can feel extra lonely when doing yahrtzeit solo. Reach out to friends who can support you and step in as family.
Does the new spouse join events marking the memory of the step children’s parent? Does the surviving parent join his/her children without the new spouse? Whichever way you spin it, this is tough.
Get expert guidance from someone who understands grieving families, your family and can suggest something that works.
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